Secular Buddhism - 172 - Practicing Acceptance
    Noah Rasheta

    Hello. And welcome back to another episode of the secular Buddhism podcast. This is episode number 172. I am your host, Noah Rasheta. And today I'm going to talk about acceptance. What is it? How do we practice it? But in general, this notion of acceptance.

    As always keep in mind, you don't need to use what you learned from Buddhism to be a Buddhist. You can use what you learned to simply be a better, whatever you already are.

    So let's jump right in... to understand what acceptance means in the Buddhist context. We need to remember that we're working on the assumption that suffering is what arises not from pain, but from the feeling we have about pain.

    In other words, our attachment to pain. So how does that work? Well, let me give you an example of the correlation, the teaching of the aggregates in a specific scenario. And this is a real life scenario that happened to me a few weeks ago. In the last podcast episode, I talked about the teaching of the five aggregates or at least I mentioned it in the context of the topic of that podcast episode.

    And those five aggregates are form sensation, perception, mental formations, and consciousness. in the Buddhist teachings, these are the five heaps or the five aggregates that make up you as a person. So a few weeks ago I was working on a project that required me to have light.

    And I have a little light lamp. It's like a headband with a light on it. I went to get it. I normally keep it in my nightstand and it wasn't there. So I needed to go outside to see if if I could find it there. And ultimately I needed to go to the shed to grab a tool. So that's what I was after a specific tool.

    I knew that I needed it and I wasn't sure where it was. So I had to go out and get it. I wanted the light to be able to go see. To be able to see inside the shed, long story short, my headlamp wasn't there. So, and just as another background to that, I have a bad habit of not putting things back where they belong.

    I'm really good at taking something and then saying, oh, I'm gonna put it here in this one safe spot. So that next time when I can't find it, I'll know that it's in this spot, but then I forget what that new spot was. Yeah, that's just a character trait that I have. That's one of my aggregates. So I remembered that that I had used the headlamp in the cargo trailer.

    So I needed to go to the cargo trailer to grab the headlamp, to go to the shed, to grab the tool. I put on my flip flops, I run out the front door and I go running to the travel trailer in, in my yard. And it's really dark it's already completely pitched black outside and I'm running and I can't see, well, cause I don't have the light.

    I'm getting the light so I can go find the tool. And on my way there, I suddenly ran into something and stubbed my toe, my big toe and it hit and it hurt. And I, it took me a second to realize what it was and I realized it was the bicycle. My son had been out practicing riding his mountain bike. He has several practices per week and he came home from one of the sessions instead of putting the bicycle away, he went and just laid it down on the ground. That happened to be right on the path that I was gonna be running. And when I ran to the trailer to get my light, that's what I hit. So I knew it had hurt. You know, if you've ever stubbed your toe, you know how painful that can be.

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